I didn’t think it would ever happen to me. Having the bonus child 4 years ago saved me from the empty nest. My older children were 17 and 14 years old when the bonus child was born. I always thought, I’ll never have any empty nest because by the time they all leave I’ll be busy with the little one and when he leaves I’ll have grand-babies to fuss over.
Then it happened.
Last night, it was so cold in Chicago. Too cold to go Trick or Treating. Too cold for trick or treaters to ring the bell. The bonus child dressed up in his Captain America costume ready for the trick or treaters that never came. When the door bell did ring it was the pizza being delivered.
And it hit me. As we sat at the kitchen table eating pizza.They were gone. The children I’d spent 21 years celebrating Halloween with were gone. I began to cry into my pizza. They were out with the significant others (a story for another post) and I was home missing them like crazy. Aching to hear them laugh, tell me about their day, listen to them talk to each other, listen to them argue over who got the most candy, talk about all the crazy costumes we saw. But silence filled the room. My face streamed with tears.
The bonus child was concerned and interrupted my silence, “what’s wrong mommy?”
“I’m missing your sister and brother,” I replied.
“Don’t worry, mommy. Meme is dressed like Starfire. And AJ is dressed like Batman. Papito is with Tori. They’ll be home later,” he said laughing at me.
The voice of reason from a 4 year old. Still my pizza filled with my tears.
I was not prepared for this…it’s like a break up. You spend years building a strong relationship…loving, crying, celebrating, arguing, growing together…then they just move on with their lives. You have to watch and be happy. I know this will pass and I will be too busy to get lost in the silence. But I also know that there will be more growing up to do…I just hope I can grow up without them.
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Aw, I can relate to this… Halloween gave me the blues yesterday a little as well, cause my son’s now too old to go trick or treating with. So empty nest is around the corner… But not quite yet! 🙂
exactly! thanks for your comment. I guess we have to grow up without them at some point. 🙂
Im just glad I’m in good company 🙂
This hit the nail on the head! It’s different handing out candy to the neighbors when your kiddos are all grown up. Bittersweet. And not as fun to listen to Phantom of the Opera by myself!